Who am I?

“Every intelligent individual wants to know what makes him tick, and yet is at once fascinated and frustrated by the fact that oneself is the most difficult of all things to know.”
― Alan W. Watts

The self is a concept that people spend their whole lives trying to grasp. It determines our notions of what is real, what is moral, what has purpose. What we call "I" is responsible for the boundaries within our external environment and within our own mind. The question we fail to ask ourselves is not only a matter of "Is there a distinction between these concepts" but rather "Should there be a distinction?".

To ask this question is to question the validity of what we hold to be true, and the validity of ourselves. We know that the beliefs we hold will never be truly "objective", whatever that means. The reason why we avoid abstract questions like these is because we come to ask ourselves "If nothing is objective, then am "I" objective?". The thing is, this question, in and of itself, implies that there is a separation between "you" and the reality "you" live in. Then we think, "If "I" do not exist (conceptually), then "my" actions do not matter."

Knowing how this construct of the "self" operates, is essential in giving purpose to one's life. You have to realize, however, that this "purpose" is also a construct. Letting purpose dictate what you do and what you believe, is therefore a choice. This decision means acknowledging the fact that said choice has no basis in "reality". It is purely subjective.

Yet, each subjective choice that we make dictates the rest of lives. So how do we live with the absence of objectivity and not having anything, or anyone to guide us in life?

The fact that your perspective on life is entirely up to you can be a scary realization. It can also lead to personal freedom.
The freedom to abandon notions of "success" and "failure"
The freedom to abandon "insecurity" and "validation"
The freedom to abandon your self-limiting beliefs.

Or keep them.
Entirely up to "you".